Okayyyy Cupid

Having been on OkCupid for a couple of days now, I can say that it's been much more entertaining than the other apps. 

(Seriously - where are my #TinderNightmare moments??)

So - here's a gem that made me chuckle/shake my head. 

A for effort (well A minus, really). But it's no. Not just because his location is Metairie. 

Wonder if I'll get a Happy Thursday? Only time will tell. 

Anti-Group Pictures

To all those gentleman out there using group pictures - cut it out!

It's annoying. This entire app is pretty much based on looks, and I can't tell what your looks are!

And you're not doing yourself any favors. Personally, if there's a group picture, I'm just going to assume you're the ugly one/the short one/the one in the trendy hat. Don't go riding on your buddy's perfect hair and six pack. 

Learn to zoom and crop, honestly. 

On a related note - on vacation a couple of months ago, I matched with BenDan. Two guys, one Tinder account. This really intrigued me so I was thrilled to match with him (them? it?). I messaged to say hey, and Dan told me that sadly Ben was out of town. I still sometimes wonder if they were looking for two girls, or for a threesome, or what? Anyway - joint accounts. Weird, but really the only excuse for a group picture. 

Down with Mobile Dating?

I read an interesting article this morning from Vanity Fair. Tinder, dating, hook-ups, 20-somethings - of course I read it!

They really hit the nail on the head - as much as I don't want to believe the new reality of dating, it's (mostly) all true. I'd like to be optimistic and think that not every single guy is out there just for a lay. Butttt it does help explain why I tend not to hear from guys after a first date, heck or even after a day of messaging!

Will I stop Tinder-ing, Bumble-ing, Hinge-ing or Coffee-Meets-Bagel-ing. Maybe! But it won't be because horny, commitment-phobic men control the dating/hook-up scene, swiping to find a bedmate.   I like sex as much as the next girl, but to the girls who after exchanging 3 messages with a guy then invites him over to watch a movie and smoke? Sorry, but of course he isn't going to date you.

Swiping left and right is a form of entertainment for me, which isn't something I'm always particularly proud of. But I don't think the possibility of finding a real relationship on an app is completely out of the question. I need to remind myself of this when I'm ghosted by a bearded cutie yet again. Tinder on!

Location, Location, Location

Matched with a cutie on Bumble yesterday. I hit him up, and we're talking about our Sundays. He says something about being in a car all day and finally getting home. I'm about to ask where he was coming from, then I noticed his location had changed to ARKANSAS.

I give up.

OkCupid update: I was on the app for approximately 30 seconds when I got overwhelmed and I deleted it. Props to all the ladies out there using it (or have met wonderful men on it!) but I don't think it's for me. Maybe someday, but not today!

A Life Change

I am downloading the OkCupid app. Eeps. 

I was an avid user of the site while in law school, but haven't used it in quite some time. Meeting guys in real life was more appealing, so I got rid of my account. Then came Tinder, which was better suited to my lifestyle. Plus, no weird usernames! 

But I'm back! For a day, at least. 

Send Help

Send help, I need a Tindervention

Boo! - Thoughts on Ghosting

Ghosting: "...ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner's attempts to reach out." Exes Explain Ghosting, the Ultimate Silent Treatment, the New York Times June 26, 2015.

I've been ghosted many times. And it sucks. But in defense of all the Ghosters out there, is it kinder than The Fade Out? If you're going to break something off with someone, whether it's a legit relationship or just a guy you've gone on one Tinder date with and casually texted with for a week, maybe it's better to go for the jugular, and just end it.

I've faded plenty of guys out, only to realize what a jerk move it is. Why keep on texting, albeit shorter and curter texts, if

PizzaFace

I once matched with this account:

I'd tap that. 

I Know This Much to Be True

Most guys will be short. If they're tall, chances are they're in the military.

Just an observation!

Disclaimer: I am quite short myself, so my "tall" isn't the same as a Victoria's Secret Angel. Let's just say spotting guys over 6 feet on these apps though is like finding a bag of caramel Bugles - rare but not impossible.

An Introduction

I've been Tindering (and Hinge-ing and Coffee Meets Bagel-ing and now Bumble-ing) for months, on and off. I've gained somewhat of a reputation for being "the Tinder girl". My co-workers all know I use it, friends come to me with questions about new dating apps, and frankly, it's become a big part of my life.

I've been considering writing down my thoughts and observations for some time, but let's face it, I'm lazy. But after exchanging multiple messages with a gentleman last night who eventually asked me "do you hookup?" (da fuq?) I realized it was time.

Y'all, it's Tinder's world and I'm just living in it. Happy swiping!